奥巴马给女儿的经典座右铭(3)

　　
　　15.Stop Taking Everything Personally
　　
　　别把每件事太往心里去
　　
　　People get offended about the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamar's now-infamous verse on “Control” this summer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he's better than （and he's right）。 The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said is he's the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that's exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you're easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.www.zouyouming.cc
　　
　　人们会因为一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯。就拿Kendrick Lamar这个夏天备受争议的歌曲《Control》为例：他在歌词中挑衅了一些他认为比他弱的说唱歌手（的确是这样），一石激起千层浪，整个说唱界的歌手都蜂拥录歌作为回击。重点在于，所有的人都认为自己是最好的说唱者，每个人都更看重自己，这就是他的目的所在。这件事教给我们的无非就是不是所有的事都要围着你转，如果你是玻璃心，有人会利用这一点。
　　
　　16.Stop Talking
　　
　　不要再说话了
　　
　　Sometimes it's best to just STFU – especially in relationships. I can't even count how many times I created an issue that didn't need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even if what you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can say more with your actions than words, and you can't listen when you're talking.
　　
　　有时候沉默是金——特别在情侣关系里。我都记不清到底多少次因为说错话引发了本可以避免的争端。即使你想说的非常重要，那也闭嘴，自行消化。你可以用行动证明一切，毕竟你自己说话的时候是听不见的。
　　
　　17.Just Stop, and Breathe…
　　
　　停一下，深呼吸吧
　　
　　No matter what you're doing in life or how your day is going, there's always room to just stop for a moment and just breathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you're doing wrong.
　　
　　无论你现在在干什么，这一天过得怎么样，你都需要好好停一下深呼吸。不如现在就歇一歇，犒赏自己总算挺过了一些错事。